Episode 3: Three Tools to Use When Your Inner Child Gets in the Way of Your Best-ish Parenting Intentions

I break down the science behind systemic oppression injuries and attachment/ inner child wounds. You’ll hear how we internalize them without even noticing. That’s why we can’t quite think our way out of these unconscious patterns.

 

Episode Summary:

Welcome to the third episode of Come Back to Care, a podcast focused on unsubscribing from outdated intergenerational family patterns and oppressive social norms so that you can pass down a legacy of compassion and liberation to your future generations.  

Your inner child doesn’t really care about your parenting intentions. To break free and unsubscribe from the outdated family patterns and oppressive social norms, I wholeheartedly believe that we need self-reflection, storytelling, and body-based practices done in a community (what I called the In-Out-N-Through™ framework). I’ve used this framework myself and with clients over the last ten years. You’ll hear personal anecdotes about my own healing journey and how these three components can support you on your path to decolonized family building and intergenerational family healing.

I look forward to you hearing your insights and feedback. Be sure to connect with me via our Sunday newsletter and share your thoughts.

Access the full episode transcript here

What You’ll Learn From this Episode:

  • Unpacking the question, “Where do we start?” 

  • The power of self-reflection, storytelling, and somatic community practice

  • A recap of what intergenerational family trauma and internalized oppression mean

  • The science behind the inner child or attachment injuries: implicit memories

  • Examples of family patterns and internalized oppression patterns through history

  • Breaking down self-reflection (In), Storytelling (Out), and Somatic Community Practice (Through) of the In-Out-N-Through™ Framework

  • How body-based practices can inform your parenting decisions 

  • Using the three components of the In, Out, and Through framework in a group setting

  • Softening your shame and how it allows you to engage in more adaptive strategies

  • The importance of integrating fragmented early childhood memories into a coherent life story and its implication on your child’s attachment and development

  • Nat's personal experience of using the In, Out, and Through elements with her mother

  • Why Nat created Come Back to Care and this podcast

 
 

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