Episode 5: What Parents Can Learn from Performative Allyship & Performative Parenting

Let's roll up our sleeves and dig deep into the topics of performative allyship and performative parenting. What do they have in common? What can we learn from them when we take shame out of the equation, and why might performative allyship and performative parenting actually be good for both social justice advocacy and decolonized parenting.

 

Episode Summary:

Welcome to the fifth episode of the Come Back to Care podcast, and happiest 2022 to you and your families chosen or otherwise. 

If you're feeling your shoulders hunching up or your stomach turning into a tight knot, or there's a sudden desire to change the channel because you're worried, I might call you in or call you out. Well, I truly respect your discomfort and your humanity. That's why shame isn't the focus of what we're talking about today. 

My goal is to invite you to be in this discomfort together with me long enough to see what we can learn from this emotionally charged topic of performative allyship to learn some lessons together and keep practicing social justice, especially through our daily parenting.

Full episode transcript.

What You’ll Learn From this Episode:

  • What performative allyship and performative parenting have in common

  • What can we learn from them when we take the shame out of the equation?

  • Why might performative allyship and performative parenting actually be good for both social justice advocacy and decolonized parenting?

  • Understand performative allyship with compassion and curiosity to discover that it can be a good enough start

  • Look at performative allyship through the lens of a skillful-unskillful spectrum instead of the good ally-bad ally binary

  • Explore some clues if your parenting is performative: are you parenting by other people's playbook?

  • Bring compassion to your performative parenting by removing shame so that you transform from Autopilot to Bold, Conscious, and Decolonized parenting...most of the time

 
 

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