Ep 53: Two Overlooked Actions to Soothe Your Parenting Triggers

“…you’re breaking these generational family cycles so that you’re not unintentionally passing down ONLY your outdated survival strategies to your child. Rather, you’re passing down a range of strategies- a mix of outdated ones and adaptive ones too. So that your child has the agency to choose which strategies they want to keep, which ones they want to adapt and which ones they want to pass down to their own children down the line.  ”

 
 

Episode Summary:

Our inner child re-parenting series (eps 50 to 58) continues. In this episode, you and I are going to unpack what happens when we’re triggered both in parenting and social justice advocacy using our react-revert-reduce cycle. Then, we’ll close out the episode with two actions you can experiment with.

Full episode transcript here.

 

Episode Outline

  • Not passing the cycles down to your child begins with managing your trigger and reactivity cycle.

  • What does it mean to be triggered?

  • What happens in the body when you’re triggered?

  • Why do we keep repeating the behaviors we know are not great for our children’s development?

  • The react-revert-reduce in a nutshell.

  • Action #1: Mapping out the react-revert-reduce cycle. 

  • An example from a foster mom of a six-month-old. 

  • Connecting the dots between inner child re-parenting, trigger management, and social justice advocacy.

  • What intentionally responding to those we love look like: Student protesters & Gaza solidarity encampments.

  • The cross-movement and intergenerational solidarity Nat observed at DePaul University encampment site.

  • Healing isn’t a solo project. 

  • Action #2: Who do you do this healing work with? Mapping out your ecosystem of support.

 
 
 
 

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