Ep 58: Why Re-Parenting Inner Child is Hard

“You adapted to survive but at the cost of abandoning those parts of yourself that were too much or not enough in your family. You contorted your body to conform to the family norms but at the cost of disconnecting from your authenticity.”

 
 

Episode Summary:

This episode concludes our inner child re-parenting series (Ep 50-58). In this episode, you and I are going to recap some key concepts of inner child re-parenting that we’ve been talking about since episode 50. Then, we’ll explore some reasons why the people closest to you might not be the most supportive of you when you choose your own healing and choose to break the family cycles. 

Full episode transcript here.

 

Episode Outline

  • Recap: Five key points of inner child re-parenting

  • First, how you were raised shapes the way you’re raising your child.

  • Therefore, discern whether you’re in protection or connection mode to meet your child where they’re at. 

  • Second, re-parenting inner child must be connected to political analysis. 

  • Therefore, contextualize your shame for not being “good enough” and add new tools in a community. 

  • Third, before we address our wound from the past, we need to address the reactivity in the present first.

  • Fourth, your triggers and reactivity are survival strategies not personalities.

  • Fifth, intergenerational family healing includes mending your connection with the previous generations too. 

  • A Chinese Medicine view on why those closest to you resist your healing and growth.

  • Special Invitation: IONT Fall Cohort (Oct 2 - Nov 13)

 
 
 

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  • YOUR re-parenting strategies

  • Advocacy skills (practiced & ready for action)

 
 
 

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