Ep 62: Mothering, Not Smothering: Power With When Your Child is Struggling
“How do our children grow up to trust themselves? It begins right here when you trust them enough to power-with with them, most of the time.”
Episode Summary:
In this episode, you and I are going to explore one action to power-with with your child when they struggle. You’ll also explore the science behind how power-with nurtures your child’s motivation and perseverance. You can prepare your child for the real world using power-with. This way you get to practice what feels aligned with your values and promote your child’s development at the same time.
Episode Outline
For your child to grow up to be whole, to be free, and to be resilient, they need you to be a partner, not a police officer.
Power-with = Nurturing your child’s self-trust
Two ways to power-with previously explored in other episodes.
One invitation to power-with with your child when they’re struggling.
Nat’s examples from her upbringing.
An example of power-with in action from a neurodivergent mom.
What science says about nurturing our children’s motivation and perseverance.
Policing our children out of fear isn’t our only option.
Resources Mentioned
Ep 61: Unlearn Adult Supremacy & Power-With with Your Child
Ep 37: Where do I start “meeting my child where they’re at”?
Ep 47: How to Practice Social Justice Parenting Today.
Ep 51: Why Intentions Don’t Matter When You’re Triggered (in Parenting & Activism)
Ep 47: How to Practice Social Justice Parenting Today
Shannon’s blog: We’ll Eat You Up, We Love You So
Growing Sustainable Together by Shannon Brescher Shea
Keith, N., & Frese, M. (2008). Effectiveness of error management training: A meta-analysis. Journal of Applied Psychology, 93(1), 59–69. https://doi.org/10.1037/0021-9010.93.1.59
Steele-Johnson, D., & Kalinoski, Z. T. (2014). Error framing effects on performance: cognitive, motivational, and affective pathways. The Journal of psychology, 148(1), 93–111. https://doi.org/10.1080/00223980.2012.748581
Dixson DD. Hope into action: How clusters of hope relate to success-oriented behavior in school. Psychol Schs. 2019; 56: 1493–1511. https://doi.org/10.1002/pits.22299
Learning Gap: Why Our Schools Are Failing And What We Can Learn From Japanese And Chinese Education
Favorite Resources from Our Co-Conspirator:
Children’s Rights & Anti-Childism: A Family Action Toolkit by Ashia Ray
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